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Kostlelnik, M., Schroeder, D., Durden, T., Warner, M., Purcell, S., Krumbach, E., Hanna, J., Nelson, M., & DeFrain, J. (2010, May). Helping Children Resolve Conflict: Aggressive Behavior of Children. NebGuide G2016. University of Nebraska–Lincoln Extension, Institute of Agriculture and Natural Resources.


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When using conflict mediation, children learn skills necessary to reach peaceful solutions. These skills include communication, compromise, the ability to see how different aspects of a dispute are related, and the ability to consider their own perspective as well as that of another person. At first, children need a great deal of support to proceed all the way to a negotiated settlement. You, as mediator, provide this support, serving as a model and instructor. As children learn problem-solving words and procedures they become increasingly capable of solving problems by themselves. There is evidence that these childhood learnings are maintained throughout the adult years.

Children can display aggressive behavior as they interact with others. In this NebGuide you’ll learn about the different behaviors and how to deal with each.