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This NebGuide discusses assertive behavior and how to become more assertive.

When you get angry with someone, are you afraid to say anything because you don't want to hurt their feelings?

When the meat you ordered at a restaurant meal is overcooked, do you eat it anyway?

When your partner does something you don't like, do you get angry and yell?

When someone pays you a compliment, do you say, "I didn't really do anything?"

Then you may wish to consider learning to express yourself in a more positive, confident and straightforward manner. Being assertive is based on the idea that changing action leads to changing attitudes and feelings which produces greater feelings of self-esteem. When you are assertive, you make your own choices, you are usually more confident, and you feel good about yourself as a person. Assertiveness training is one form of self-improvement designed to help you be a stronger, more self-sufficient person.